Chivalry is dead and feminism killed it.
Chivalry is an outdated, archaic social code built on the infantilazation of white women and the dehumanization and erasure of women of color.
Maybe worry less about emulating idealized notions of medieval knighthood ethics, and focus more on just being a polite person, yeah?
The combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, esp. courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak.”
Now I don’t see any kind of problem with that definition. Do you? You can be chivalrous in all things you do, you can be chivalrous to men, to women, you don’t need to be a man to be chivalrous. I mean really? The idea of a code of respect is not a bad one. For me, I personally try to be courageous, honorable, courtesy and just in all my actions, be it opening a door for someone (anyone, no gender or age specifics needed) or standing up to someone or sticking up for someone.
Feminism kills misogyny, if it killed your chivalry you were doing chivalry wrong.